Our Baby Girls!

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Saturday, 27 November 2010

Paperwork, Paperwork and Celebrations!

Our Girls Birth Certificates arrived 24 hours ago, along with all the supporting documentation needed from our Surrogate Mother to make application for their British Passports.

Therefore the morning was spent, making sure that everything was completed.....all the I's dotted and T's crossed!

C was left to take the Girls to the Pool!

Out the door into 28 degrees of heat I ventured to find a courier....TNT was only a minute away but my luck would have it.....you had to go to another location to send parcels.....

Eventually the location was found, enveloped checked, weighed, seal and made ready for it's delivery to the British High Commission in New Delhi.

Fingers are now crossed that it won't be a long road from here......

But with all that put aside it was time to celebrate.........the BIG 40!

I couldn't have asked for a better gift for my Birthday than my two baby girls.....they are just so perfect in every way!

Pop the Champagne and cut my Indian Sponge Cake!! It's a celebration - C, Me and our Girls!

Saturday, 20 November 2010

Day 5 As Parents!

We are enjoying every minute of being parents.........and I thinks our girls are laughing at us as we learn new things that go with parenting.

We have to give special mention to the Newborn Babies that we have met thus far:

Harry, son of Will & Michael.....a very handsome baby boy and so happens to have been born on the same day as our girls.

Maya & Thomas - son & daughter of Ula and Saul.....an adorable & beautiful set of twins.

now back to sleep!!!

Monday, 15 November 2010

Introducing our Daughters!!

We are happy to announce the birth of our Daughters on November 15th 2010....

and there they are above........................

Kamryn Aneko & Anaya Jaide
November 15th 2010

Born at 38 weeks 4 Days.
4.6lbs and 5.5lbs

Both babies are doing very well and we spent the immediate two hours after birth with them as they were wide awake....and then we moved into our hospital room with our daughters..

What a day of joy it has been!

Thanks to all of you our cyber friends for your continued support and positive comments during our journey!

Wednesday, 10 November 2010

Leave London Tomorrow for Mumbai

We are finally on our way to Mumbai........all we can say at this point is "WATCH THIS SPACE!"

Saturday, 30 October 2010

11 Years - Let's Celebrate!

Tomorrow October 31st - Halloween - Our relationship reaches it's 11th year! Happy Anniversary to us!

In the Gay world this Anniversary equates almost to a heterosexual couple's GOLDEN ANNIVERSARY!

We have enjoyed our time together, learning, laughing, growing, exploring the world and of course at times shouting at each other.......Love has endured!

The time has flown by, but on top of this we are super excited about becoming Daddies!

We can't wait to share our 11 year of love with our kids!

"Love is a symbol of eternity.  It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end."

Monday, 25 October 2010

Into 36 Weeks.........and still going!

We are just about to begin the start line for 36 weeks....with our Surrogate showing no signs of pre-term Labour!

The babies have gained weight which is terrific......

They are just not ready to join us yet.......so we continue to wait!

But we have another milestone coming up this weekend so stay tuned!

Monday, 18 October 2010

Countdown Glitch!

Just as we thought things were going smoothly.....

The Dr.'s had advised that our Surrogate would have an elective c-section.....perfect for us as it meant working to some kind of schedule.

Dr. Yash and Dr. Varsha both said to arrive in Mumbai for October 25th!

Well we've been probing the Dr.'s with question over the last couple of days so as to have a better indication when the c-section might be schedule for.

We got responses, but felt they were pretty general....and unfortunately general responses don't cut it with us.

We wanted it to be clear that we did not want to sit in Mumbai for a week or two after our initial arrival.....and still no babies delivered!

Yes we are excited but also realize that we will have to remain in Mumbai for several weeks due to the slowness of the British Embassy.

So today after being a pest, the Dr.'s came back to say that they will not do a c-section for another 3 to 4 weeks..

The babies need to FATTEN up some more!

So there it goes...back to the waiting game!

Patience is nowhere to be found when you've reached this point!

Oh Well........

Wednesday, 6 October 2010

Picture Update

Our Surrogate on Countdown.............

Monday, 4 October 2010

Tell Us What you THink - Gender Wise that is!

We are excited.......and we know that you are excited for us........THANK YOU!

As long as we have healthy babies we are happy.....but let's have some gender predictions.




Little Ones are in Pole Position!

We received a Scan & Report today dated September 23rd.......Everything is going fine and on track.

From the report our little ones are in CEPHALIC PRESENTATION and according to Dr. Google this means the following:

"A cephalic presentation is a situation at childbirth where the fetus is in a longitudinal lie and the head enters the pelvis first"

These guys or girls or guy and girl have positioned themselves for entry into the world!!

Let's see if they find any more room for acrobatic flips!

In 20 More Days we are expected in Mumbai!!

Wednesday, 29 September 2010

We Have Our Visa's!

The Indian Visa Process is really straight forward and it takes 3 days......So on Monday our applications were submitted and today we have our passports back....

I guess this is one thing we can now tick on our countdown checklist....

Saturday, 18 September 2010

Tuesday, 14 September 2010

Preparing to arrive in Mumbai!

Dr. Yash sent an e-mail this morning with the suggestion that we arrive in Mumbai October 23/24 and prepare for the arrival of our babies the week commencing October 25th.

Yikes that is just around the corner........PANIC BUTTON PLEASE!

Hoping that those little ones hang in there until then!

Tuesday, 31 August 2010

Sunday, 29 August 2010



As you can see the wall are complete......

Winnie the Pooh and Friends will help to welcome our little ones........

Saturday, 21 August 2010


I came across this article today (Black Men Cuddle on Subway, Web Hits Panic Button)......and it hit a spot close to home.



Saturday, 14 August 2010

Babies are just chillin out!

The latest scan results landed in the inbox today.......There is always an element of excitement when the e-mails from SI pop in, whilst at the same time a level of disappointment.

The disappointment comes about because the scans are hardly visible!

Babies are continuing to develop on track....in fact they are having fun just chillin out.

Gestational Age is 26 weeks with no obvious anatomical anomalies.

Baby A - Vertex Presentation

Baby B - Transverse Lie


Saturday, 7 August 2010

ERRR................THE NURSERY!


Thursday, 5 August 2010


I guess this would be a easy task if:-

1. You knew the gender of your baby!
2. You were having a singleton!

But with twins and and the factor of not knowing the genders you have to create the combination of 12 names....this includes a first & middle name:


Some may take the easy route and choose to have unisex names; however we have gone for the 12 names combination.....

What fun!!

Wednesday, 4 August 2010

Belly Bump!!


Saturday, 31 July 2010


23 weeks & 4 Days!

Life is always a rich and steady time when you are waiting for something to happen or to hatch.
-- E.B. White, Charlotte's Web

Tuesday, 27 July 2010

23 Weeks and Counting!

Time is ticking....we are waiting....but more importantly BABIES are growing well...........

We are looking for a new set of wheels........and this is what the front-runner is: City Select from Baby Jogger.



Saturday, 26 June 2010

Progress Update at our 1/2 way point!

We have basically reached the 1/2 way point in our Surrogates pregnancy....as the full term for twins is 37 Weeks. Our Surrogate is progressing well and the babies are growing each day.

Current Stats Baby#1 / Baby#2

Biparietal Diameter: 3.8 / 3.9
Abdominal Circumference 12.3 / 11.9
Femur Length 2.8 / 2.7
Head Circumference 14.3 / 15.0
Humerus Length 2.6 / 2.6
Foot Length 2.4 / 2.3
Est. Fetal Weight 232 gms / 222 gms

Gestational Age = 18.5 weeks

We are on track for a November Birth..........that's if these little wee one's don't get excited and decide to come early!

Happy Birthday! June 26th 2010

We have to take a moment to recognize the birthday of our Surrogate (June 26th 2010)...........'HAPPY BIRTHDAY MS. M!'

We're hoping that she enjoys the cake and flowers we sent! (Wish we could have been in India to choose a better arrangement of flowers.....oh well the internet florist & to celebrate with you.)

Sunday, 20 June 2010

Happy Father's Day!

To All The Fathers In Surrogate Land......Happy Father's Day!

Next Year we'll be able to celebrate with you....

Tuesday, 15 June 2010

"Gary and Tony Have a Baby" - A CNN REPORT - Airs June 24th

Our in-box seems to be filling these days with all kinds of documentaries on Surrogacy......here is another report by CNN airing on June 24th 2010

"Gary and Tony Have a Baby"

The true story of two gay men, Gary Spino and Tony Brown, and their fight to form a traditional family through surrogacy. Watch Soleday O'Brien's "In america" report: "Gary and Tony Have a baby," June 24 at 8 p.m. ET

A few Clips:

CNN "Gary and Tony Have a Baby" Trailer:

Surrogate Donates Eggs to Gay Couple

Stranger Helps Gay Couple Make a Family:

Gary and Tony Shop For Baby Gear:

Monday, 14 June 2010



Director and producer Zippi Brand Frank’s Google Baby follows several men and woman involved in egg donation and surrogacy in the U.S., Israel and India, including:

Doron, an Israeli entrepreneur who was inspired by his own experiences using a surrogate for his daughter’s birth and started a service for “baby production,” using eggs donated from the U.S. and surrogates in India.

Dr. Nayna Patel, who operates a surrogacy clinic in Gujarat, India, and sees her service as “one woman helping another.”

Katherine, a 28-year-old American who has successfully donated eggs, and plans to donate again to help pay for her family’s home remodeling and to add to her growing gun collection.

Two women from Dr. Patel’s clinic: Vaishali, a first-time surrogate who hopes to buy a house with the money she earns, and Diksha, whose first attempt at surrogacy ended in a miscarriage at five months, but wants to try again so that she can better provide for her son.



Tuesday, 1 June 2010

Not so Secret Anymore!

My Mom lives outside of the UK, so a few weeks ago I shared the good news of our upcoming parenthood over the telephone....of course she was mildly excited.

This happens to be the year of grandchildren for her as my brother has just had a baby in April....then in November she'll have two more.

However, this week I have the opportunity to visit her, whilst on an overseas business trip. Well, she has outdone the BBC, CNN, CBS and ABC. She has lambasted the news to her co-workers, friends and family.


It took me a minute or two to understand why folk were saying congratulations....but it soon clicked!

You just have to love your Mom......especially when she is about to become a grandmother again!

Thursday, 27 May 2010

Wednesday, 19 May 2010


We are letting the time pass without being to conscious of TIME (so to speak)......but here we are coming to the end of our 12 weeks.

Think we are almost just about finished Pregnancy 101......this is truly a journey of learning as well!

So this is what our reports say:

  • Fetal Cardiac Activities and Movements are well Maintained.
  • Fetal Structures are Well Defined.
  • Amniotic Fluid is Adequate In Both The Sacs.
  • Thin Membrane Seen Separating The Two Sacs
  • Cervical Length is 3.1 cm
Now for the wee wee ones:-

Wee One
CRL 7.12 equal to 13w 2days
FHR 180 bpm

Wee Two
CRL 6.87cm equal to 13w 1days
FHR 180 bpm


EDD:- NOV 19th 2010

The bleed that our Surrogate had has resolved itself!! GREAT NEWS!!

So there we are as we move into the second trimester.

Wednesday, 12 May 2010




Tuesday, 11 May 2010


Nursery Registration.......Yes, you heard it right........we have to get the unborn babies on the Nursery waiting list for next year!

Wednesday, 21 April 2010


So many words get spoken.........So many joys and pains are shared.......So many of us seek advice from one another........yet in most instances we have not met in person. The Surrogacy Journey is amazing at how it creates a common bond amongst strangers.

Thanks to all of you who have left comments as a means of support!

Thanks to those who have sent personal e-mails!

Thanks to those of you who are are now our cycle buddies and running a parallel pregnancy.....November here we come!

Thanks for continuing to read our Blog and providing that cushion of support!

Sunday, 18 April 2010

8 Weeks.......and growing!

We have reached 8 weeks and 98% of the pregnancy seems to be going well...

  • Two Separate Gestation Sacs
  • Good Choriodecidual Reaction
  • Two Separate Yolk Sac
  • Two Strong Heartbeats
CRL 1 17.2mm 8 weeks 1 Day

CRL 2 16.3mm 8 weeks

As you can see the pregnancy continues to grow, however there is a subchorionic collection.

Ms. M, our Surrogate has been put on bed rest and hopefully this will assist with a continued good pregnancy.

Referring to Dr. Google causes you to panic for a few minutes, but then as you research further you find that subchorionic collection can be quite normal in IVF pregnancies.

Our eyes are on Will and Michael who are running parallel to us and seem to have experienced the same development within the same time frame of their pregnancy.....and yes they are progressing well.

So for now, we just hope for the best!

Monday, 29 March 2010

2nd Beta.......3rd Beta.........and Finally!

Juggling numbers in a pregnancy is no fun when you are trying to equate to a baby or babies.....

Therefore we have been sitting on our beta numbers for a few days and here they are: -

2nd beta test - (17dpt) - 1946

3rd beta test - (20dpt) - 5166

remember our first beta test was - (14dpt) - 595

Ultra Sound Scan clearly show two defined gestational sacs - TWINS!


Two separate gestation sac noted in the uterine cavity with good choriodecidual reaction and fetal poles within. Two separate yolk sac.


1- 1.4mm

2 - 1.3mm

However one Sac is larger than the other, so hoping that there is some rapid growth

We have a long way to go still......next step being two heartbeats.

In the meantime, we have two Daddies and two wee ones!

Saturday, 20 March 2010


The morning started with a missed call from Dr. Yash, who left a voice message asking if we could call her........

Initial thoughts........why didn't she leave the results? why is there a need to call her? Literally, there was no indication as to whether Ms. M, our surrogate mother had a positive or negative pregnancy.

So, we call Dr. Yash back who so calmly tells us that the results are in and the Beta's are 595!

Yes, we have a strong POSITIVE PREGNANCY!

Trying to interpret the Beta numbers is impossible, so we'll wait to see what the numbers jump to and results of the Ultra Sound Scan!

THANKS FOR ALL THE BABY DUST THAT WAS SPRINKLED.........HOPEFULLY, MS. M, will have a successful pregnancy!

Monday, 8 March 2010


Dr. Sudhir had suggested a Skype call with our surrogate (Ms. M) today. However I thought it was just a bit to early as the embryo transfer had just taken place yesterday......

What do we say? We just don't know at this point!

Ms. M, does not speak English, so of course a translator will always be needed. But I have to laugh, as when I first met her in Mumbai, I was on my own. One of her questions was:


Thrown just a little of guard by the question, I thought I would leave it to the SI team to explain to her!

Ms. M, we wish you well as you endure this journey with us......and by all means catch the babydust that is being thrown our way!

Embryo Update

Dr. Yash has added her view to the matter of the Embryos and has advised that the 3 Embryos that were being cultured to the Blastocyst stage were not of a good enough condition.....therefore they have arrested (died).

So as it stands:

3 Embryos Transferred

3 Embryos Frozen


back to the 2 WW.


So, yesterday was the 'DAY'.........

We had 6 eggs fertilize to an excellent quality........we have 3 embryos that are being grown to blastocyst stage (giving them the ultimate chance) and we lost 1

As a result of all of that: 3 eggs were transferred, 3 have been frozen and as said 3 growing to Blastocyst stage.

The possibilities with BLASTOCYST: 1, 2 or 3 may develop to a quality that gives for a viable pregnancy.

If 1 grows, then we can consider doing a Blastocyst transfer in addition to the 3 that have already been transferred.

If 2 and 3 grow as well they can be frozen, or nature may take it's toll and they may be arrested.

In one great big breath.........WE ARE PROGRESSING!

The two week wait is here........

Sprinkle the 'BABYDUST'!

Sunday, 7 March 2010

Simply Eggs!

We are progressing........On Friday the ED provided us with 15 eggs.........

10 Mature & 5 Immature!

Sunday, 28 February 2010


The hormone human chorionic gonadotropin (better known as hCG) is produced during pregnancy. It is made by cells that form the placenta, which nourishes the egg after it has been fertilized and becomes attached to the uterine wall. Levels can first be detected by a blood test about 11 days after conception and about 12 - 14 days after conception by a urine test. In general the hCG levels will double every 72 hours. The level will reach its peak in the first 8 - 11 weeks of pregnancy and then will decline and level off for the remainder of the pregnancy.

  • In a bout 85% of normal pregnancies, the hCG level will double every 48 - 72 hours. As you get further along in pregnancy and the hCG level gets higher, the time it takes to double can increase to about every 96 hours.
  • An hCG level of less than 5mIU/ml is considered negative for pregnancy, and anything above 25mIU/ml is considered positive for pregnancy.
  • A single hCG reading is not enough information for most diagnoses. When there is a question regarding the health of the pregnancy, multiple testings of hCG done a couple of days apart give a more accurate assessment of the situation.

Saturday, 27 February 2010

Beep Beep....Update Time!

So we have managed to get back on track............

The ED is going through her cycle and reached the stage of follicle growth.......however the follicles are growing slowly.....

Therefore as soon as they have reached about 20mm in growth, we can have that all important egg retrieval.


Hopefully next week sometime this will happen.....

Stay tuned!

Congrats to Shannon & Geoff who are now pregnant!

Monday, 15 February 2010

TRUST is Slipping!

I have this niggle of mis-trust of SI at the back of my head which I am trying to work around.......

In January, there was a problem with both my Egg Donor and Surrogate.....both had to be changed...... I put this down to human nature taking its toll.

Of course the planned trip to Mumbai went ahead......as basically all I needed to do was the paperwork formalities, meet the surrogate and leave a donation.

Seems easy right......so from that point I expect that the Doctor will update the surrogacy cycle schedule.

No, I had to repeatedly ask for this! A bit odd!

I get the schedule and it all seems ok, so I follow along with the dates where things are happening with the Surrogates and ED.

Then today, I ask for an update and the Doctor tells me that they are waiting for things to happen that should have happened 3 or 4 days ago......then he is vague on everything else.

I ask for dates and he cannot give!

This is rocking the 50/50 trust that I have had......and my gut instinct is leading the way.

This just doesn't feel good! What do we do?

Thursday, 11 February 2010

The Four......YES FOUR! Week Wait.

If all goes well, in four weeks time, we should know whether or not we have a successful pregnancy. March 10th 2010.

But, I have to say it is an emotional roller coaster of a journey that takes its toll. One minute you're on a high (particularly when you read of all the successful pregnancies & births that are happening)

Then it comes crashing down from simply being impatient!

Oh well......what can we do....but wait!

Tuesday, 2 February 2010

Back At Home! Stay tuned!

It feels so good to be back at home..............SO SO GOOD!

There won't be any further baby news until March! Unless the Egg Donor or Surrogate interrupt the journey.....

Stay Tuned!

Wednesday, 27 January 2010

MEN 2 MEN ADVICE - The Semen Collection!

There was nothing that could have prepared me for what was to come in the Semen Collection Room at the Lilavati Hospital.

The room is located right in the IVF clinic on the second floor and is clearly sign posted ' SEMEN COLLECTION ROOM'.

Step into a very basic room, that has a bed and a toilet (bathroom for some of you). The first thing that you notice is the very strong smell of spice.....not a pleasant smell when you are trying to think about delivering a good sample.

The walls were dirty, the linen on the bed filthy and the toilet un-describable......simply put, this room was dingy!

This is a stark contrast compared to the rest of the hospital which appears highly hygienic.

You will definitely need some porn to get you mentally stimulated........

The best advice I can give is to take a magazine or two....or upload some clips on your IPOD.

This will help in trying to stop yourself thinking about touching the bed, walls, blocking out the smell and anything else grotesque in the room.

Be prepared!

Monday, 25 January 2010

A Ray Of Sunshine!

I started the morning off with a visit to the dentist! Ouch!

Late in the afternoon, I ventured off to meet Dr. Sudhir at his office which is right next to the maternity clinic...(almost an hour drive from the Novotel due to traffic)

But before I go any further.....for all of you that are pregnant. I saw a few of the pregnant surrogate mothers at the clinic today.....They looked RADIANT, HEALTHY and VERY HAPPY! One of them could have been your surrogate so I threw good luck their way!

First up was sorting out our new surrogate. Dr. Sudhir had a few choices of surrogates that met our requirements , the box got ticked on one of them and a meeting has been arranged for Wednesday. All fingers crossed on this one!

Dr. Sudhir then took time to discuss a few other bits and bobs.

Tomorrow is a holiday in India.....so perhaps Juhu Beach will be packed!

Sunday, 24 January 2010

What a Day!

I was dreading the 8 1/2 hour flight sitting at the back of the bus.......but my British Airways loyalty paid off and I was upgraded. Nice way to start this part of our life changing journey!

Arrived in Mumbai on time at 11:45am.....a quick whiz through Immigration & customs.....and then.......

I'm not sure how I survived the car journey, these folk drive in a frenzied manner.....cut in.....toot......weave out.....toot.....cut in......toot.

Tuk Tuks, Car, Motorbikes, Buses, Tractors, Animals and People all coming together to create traffic from hell.

After a short 15 - 20 min ride, I arrived at the Novotel Mumbai which is located right on Juhu Beach..(well it's no Miami beach or Bondi Beach)

The check-in was easy and in 5 mins I was sitting in my room.

The room is well appointed with a nice King Size Bed and Glass Shower Room. My window overlooks the entrance to the beach.

I would recommend the Novotel Mumbai Juhu Beach!

Off to Dinner!

which divide

Thursday, 21 January 2010

Off To India On Saturday!

Over the past few weeks, we've been wondering if SI would pull through
in finding another Surrogate Mother that met our requirements. Big
Question! In the meantime preparations were still being made to travel
to Mumbai, as the trip could not be cancelled or postponed.

Could this be a wasted journey?

Well, things look good as an e-mail arrived today from SI with not 1
but 3 possible surogates.

So my trip is not in vain and most likely we will cycle next month.

Looking forward to baby success once again.

Sent from my iPhone

Friday, 8 January 2010


I heard my phone ringing at 7:00am, but I was just coming out of dreamland so missed the call!

Jumped up eventually and it was Dr. Sudhir....

He was calling to tell us that it wasn't looking good for our chosen Surrogate as her Uterus Lining was not thickening as normally required (A (fairly) normal uterine cavity and endometrial lining are necessary in order to conceive and maintain a pregnancy).......of course this just stomped me!

How could this be? I thought to myself, better now for her to be medically unfit then when she is carrying the baby!

This means we now have to scramble for options......Wait to see if the Surrogate's condition improves (to be honest, we are not really feeling this option as her condition raises a red flag for a successful pregnancy)

Choose a new surrogate and wait to cycle again next month.

This is a complete roadblock and just throws my so called planning into turmoil!

Mixed emotions all around..........

Has anyone had a similar experience with their choosen surrogate and wish to comment?

Wednesday, 6 January 2010

Sprinkle The Baby Dust......Mumbai Here We Come!

Mumbai Checklist

So I depart for Mumbai on the 23rd of January, which is just a few weeks away. I am so used to planning business and leisure trips for myself that in this first instance I just got on with it.
  • INDIAN VISA - issued in 3 days from the Indian Visa Centre. I got a bog standard tourist visa which is only valid for six months as they do not offer a year long visa. Therefore I will have to repeat the visa application process again in October (if successful pregnancy) for baby pickup.
  • FLIGHTS - Virgin, Air India, Jet Airways, Kingfisher, Emirates, British Airways and the list goes on.. Think I'll stick with British Airways out of loyalty! There is not a lot of difference in pricing for direct flights....a lay-over in the Middle East might have saved me some £££.
  • HOTEL - Novotel Mumbai Juhu Beach - Brand new property from the reputable French Hotel Group Accor. Their rates seem to be the most reasonable. If I am honest, hotel rates in Mumbai are not moderate compared to other Asian countries. (Hotel Review to come later.)
Now I just need to pack and relax!