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Monday, 8 March 2010

WHERE IS YOUR WIFE?

Dr. Sudhir had suggested a Skype call with our surrogate (Ms. M) today. However I thought it was just a bit to early as the embryo transfer had just taken place yesterday......

What do we say? We just don't know at this point!

Ms. M, does not speak English, so of course a translator will always be needed. But I have to laugh, as when I first met her in Mumbai, I was on my own. One of her questions was:

"WHERE IS YOUR WIFE?"

Thrown just a little of guard by the question, I thought I would leave it to the SI team to explain to her!

Ms. M, we wish you well as you endure this journey with us......and by all means catch the babydust that is being thrown our way!

26 comments:

  1. DID they ever explain it to her?

    We had an immigrant neighbor a few years ago who took to us because we spoke Spanish. She'd come over to borrow things at all hours, and kept asking "so all four of you live here?" meaning of course, our wives. My husband had her in the tiny two-bedroom house once, she saw the sole bed, and still asked where we slept with our wives.

    One day we noticed she'd been visited by Jehovah's Witnesses. We're guessing they explained it to her, because she stopped talking to us. It was like a big Jesus bulb went off in her head.

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  2. Well, we will soon find out if all was explained to her when we do a SKYPE session. She may very well ask for a wife again......

    But hey, that's just a small part of this big equation of Surrogacy!

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  3. Hoping those embies of yours are snuggling in for 9 months :)

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  4. Thanks Cocoa,

    They better be getting cozy!

    we'll have it no other way

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  5. Too cute! The Docs are well versed on same sex couples questions...I am sure they handled it very well.

    Wishing you lots of luck!

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  6. Better to "play along" and not disclose anything. Indian society is extremely homophobic and the surrogates tend to be from the lower Hindu castes or Muslims, where homosexuality is viewed as immoral and unacceptable. Ultimately you want to make sure your surro has minimal stress during the nine months she is pregnant and carrying your baby. So disclosing anything that would upset her during that time is not in your best interests, hers, or the baby's. Let your clinic handle this anyway they see fit. They will know the surro's profile and her politics and will disclose as much or as little as they feel is appropriate. Also, you must always consider the surro's husband and how they feel about the issue as that too could impact the pregnancy.

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  7. Love the story about your wife, Our neighbor asked me if Michael was my brother a few weeks ago,I was also thrown of guard with this question ,so i said "yes".
    So me and my brother and you and your wife are all on our 2ww together(lol) not easy is it?
    Good luck, we are thinking about you.

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  8. I don't have a wife either.

    Snuggle in embies!

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  9. Oh gosh, the wife question! I remember when all three of us (my partner, my niece/egg donor, and I) all met our surro in Mumbai and it was all so confusing for her. We chuckled about it after...still do! I guess it comes with the territory...best wishes!

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  10. Just wait until you're out somewhere lugging around a 10 month old. Those questions will be all over the place. It's even more fun when it's just two of you and the colors don't match LOL.

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  11. Too funny! Like Rhonda said, the docs can handle this one, no problemo! So, now, where is this wife of yours? :)

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